Helping Students Become Upstanders: Anti-Bullying Activities for Schools

Have you ever noticed the quiet power of a student who chooses to stand up for someone else? On my recent school visits, I’ve seen how a single act of courage—whether it’s a student reaching out to a classmate or a group coming together to support someone left out—can transform the entire atmosphere of a classroom. These moments remind me that every child has the potential to be an upstander, and that sometimes the smallest gestures spark the biggest changes.

Empowering students to become upstanders isn’t just about telling them what’s right—it’s about showing them, through real stories and lived experiences, that their actions matter. I’ve watched as shy students found their voices, and as entire classrooms grew closer after sharing stories of kindness and bravery. These are the moments that stay with students long after the assembly ends.

How Do We Help Students Become Upstanders?

• Start with Empathy: Encourage students to notice when something isn’t right and to imagine how others feel. Simple role-plays and open conversations about real-life situations help students build empathy and confidence.
• Give Safe, Practical Tools: Not every child is comfortable speaking out in front of a crowd, but every student can make a difference—whether it’s by offering a kind word, including someone in a group, or letting an adult know when something feels wrong.
• Celebrate Upstanders: Recognize the students who take positive action, whether with a note home, a classroom shout-out, or a quiet thank you. When students see that courage and kindness are valued, they’re more likely to act.

Simple Ways to Empower Upstanders in Your School

• Upstander Spotlights: Dedicate a space in your classroom or hallway to share stories of empathy and action.
• Circle Conversations: Give students regular opportunities to talk about their experiences and brainstorm together. Hearing peers’ stories helps everyone see the impact of standing up.
• Practice Makes Confident: Use quick scenarios or “What would you do?” questions during morning meetings or assemblies to help students rehearse their responses.

My Abracabully Anti-Bullying Assembly is designed to inspire these very moments. Through interactive magic, storytelling, and hands-on demonstrations, students see firsthand how small actions can lead to a more connected, caring school community. If you’re looking for ways to build empathy and courage in your classrooms, you can explore all my programs on the programs page.

Thank you for every way you encourage students to use their voices and look out for one another. Every upstander you empower is a step toward a stronger, kinder school community—and those moments of courage are remembered long after the school day ends.

Frequently Asked Questions

How can students safely be upstanders?

Students can include someone who is left out, offer a kind word, and tell a trusted adult when something feels wrong.

How can teachers practice upstander skills?

Use short role-plays, circle conversations, and “What would you do?” questions so students can rehearse supportive responses.

Bring an Educational Assembly to Your School

Explore Abracabully’s anti-bullying assembly for schools in New York, New Jersey, Connecticut, and Pennsylvania. Ask Mike about your date or call 866-479-1110.

By Michael Kirschner, school assembly presenter.